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BOYS WILL BE BOYS? Speaking up against sexual violence and sexism at MLS

16/5/2015

 
Pleasantly weary from a beautiful evening of dining, dancing and catching up with long lost friends at Law Ball, I wandered out of the Peninsula Ballroom. The masses had just begun making their way to the party buses to carry on the festivities elsewhere. I, however, was making my way home, thanks to an inconveniently early start at work the following morning. A short distance from the venue doors, still swamped by crowds of merry law students, I bent down to assist my housemate with something. ​
Suddenly, I felt a sharp thwack on my arse.

Initially simply confused, I looked around. A group of four young men, all strangers to me, had just passed and were looking back at me. “HEY!” I yelled, as the confusion passed and the anger kicked in.  “Are you fucking kidding me??!!”  Their response to my distress? All four laughed. Looking right at me. Then, they turned and hightailed it to the party bus as fast as they could.

In my imagination I would race after those sorry excuses for human beings and give them an eloquent piece of my mind; discovering their identities, perhaps summoning security and phoning the police. However, the reality was far less heroic. Confined by my maxi-dress, heels and delayed by my initial confusion, all I managed was to send a few more expletives floating after them.

Then I realised, I was shaking. I was left with a sinking feeling of humiliation: I felt vulnerable; angry; and disrespected. My pleasant evening had now been tainted. 

An overreaction? Some of you may think. I had that thought too. It was no big deal, I tried to convince myself; there’s always a few dickheads around. Let it go. But the truth is, we can’t afford to let these things go.  For too long unwanted sexual violence has simply been seen as just part of a night out. That handsy guy on the dance floor. The fleeting grope in a crowded tram. Unpleasant, but, well, boys will be boys, some say.

I say, let’s call it what it is. Let’s call it sexual assault (a.k.a. any unwanted sexual behaviour or activity that makes the victim feel uncomfortable, frightened or threatened). We cannot afford to normalize sexual violence of any degree. There is nothing funny about objectifying a person. There is nothing respectable about seeking sexual gratification at another’s (unconsenting) expense. There should be no thrill to be found in another’s distress. And alcohol consumption provides no excuse for any of these behaviours.

In part I think I felt especially rattled that night because I simply didn’t expect this amongst the law school community. For all of our flaws, on the whole we law students carry a strong sense of justice and a deep understanding of what it means to be a member of a supportive community. Granted, those cowards I encountered might not be MLS students, and I sincerely hope they aren’t. But regardless, I did not expect to be violently slapped while attending a Ball with my peers. I did not expect to feel alone and embarrassed as crowds of fellow students around me looked away awkwardly and continued walking, in spite of my obvious distress.  While thankfully this experience has not been the norm during my time at MLS, even one experience like this at an MULSS event was one too many.  But sadly, I am quite sure that I would not be the only one with such a story to tell following the Law Ball.

I urge the MLS student community to speak up every time you see or hear something that even so much as hints at sexual violence, or even simply sexism. We must stop convincing ourselves that these events are ‘no big deal’ and be ruthless in our efforts to combat sexual violence of all degrees. It is only through open and honest discussion that we will ever be able to address this all too common experience.


Gemma Freeman is a third-year JD student.

John Smith
19/5/2015 07:27:37 am

Any illusions I had about the law school populace being less bigoted than the general population have been shattered by numerous conversations overheard in the locker area. For example, people using 'gay' as an insult, conversations featuring demeaning language in relation to 'hot teachers', etc (and yes, these were law students). While disappointing, I'm not particularly surprised that you had this experience. Many (generally male) law students, while conveying a veneer of open-mindedness or progressiveness, deep down remain just as misogynistic and homophobic as the next person.

Jane Doe
19/5/2015 08:53:43 am

As a male, I find what happened to the author vulgar and truly unacceptable. No one has the right to lay a hand on another person without their approval. The 'he's just showing off to the lads' excuse does not fly, and gents - if your mate does this, you should cut them down to size and call them out as the piece of shit they are. Hopefully the resulting humiliation will scar them for life.

As for the above commenter, 'John Smith', disdain about guys discussing 'hot lecturers' should not be uttered in the same breath as any approval of the author's message. I have heard countless females in the law school literally and metaphorically gushing at the mere thought of select lecturers (James Parker and Julian Sempill - high five).

A private discussion about an attractive person is a vastly different concept than the vile acts of sexual harassment which are committed by males far, far too frequently.

John Smith
19/5/2015 09:45:15 am

'Jane', it wasn't the fact that they were discussing an attractive person, but (as I mentioned in my original comment) the fact that they were doing so using demeaning language.

While it would of course be absurd to suggest that this is in any way equivalent to what the author experienced, they are ultimately both symptoms of the same problem. That was the point.

Amelia Eddy
20/5/2015 06:22:30 am

Thanks for writing this article Gemma. This reflects my own and undoubtably many other women's experiences of this kind of culture in the law school - I'm sorry that this happened.

Christine
20/5/2015 03:24:43 pm

Also very thankful you've written this, Gemma.

Last week in Ethics we were discussing the problematic 'A Solicitor' case, and a passionate debate about disciplining a lawyer that had committed sexual abuse against children followed. It was already a tense class, before two guys interrupted with "but it was only one time" before breaking out into a childish fit of giggles. I was so stunned by the insensitivity that I didn't say anything. And what do you say?

I want to put it down to simple ignorance and immaturity, but it's not the first time students have spoken in that manner. It wasn't sexual violence, and I'd hesitate to call it sexism. But it was incredibly poor taste, and made me feel miserable for the future of the law community as a whole.


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